This is a great post with so many excellent points brought out. We were in our late 50's when we faded 22 months ago and it has been so freeing. The further you get away from it you really see how crazy the whole thing really is. one of the things that has helped us also is reading and researching to debunk it all so you aren't confused in your mind. Once you realize it is a lie the scales fall off your eyes for good.
Aunt Fancy
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It is so obviously a lie......now
by snare&racket inonce the spell is broken, one you take a deep fresh breath outisde of the watchtower camp, the amazingly obvious realisation becomes clear.... of course this is a lie, of course this is ridiculous!
you find you have memories of really believing the claims and promises, but it seems like another life, another experience.
it seems so incredibly false once you leave and it is very difficult to belive you even once accepted it!
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OMG I'm so happy!!!!
by Julia Orwell inyup, the apostate is happy.
i shouldn't be, right, because my life is empty without "jehovah" and the organisation.. but i just got a job at one of the best theme parks in the world, which is so what i want to do, and it's the first permanent job i've had since i lost my government job in 2012!.
the job pays minimum wage but i don't care because working in tourism and entertainment is what i want to do!
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Aunt Fancy
Great news Julia between that, your writing and your art work I hope this will put you are the right path!
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How Many Had Chronic fatigue syndrome?
by OnTheWayOut inchronic fatigue syndrome refers to severe, continued tiredness that is not relieved by rest and is not directly caused by other medical conditions.. did you have many congregation members, particularly pioneers, that said they had " chronic fatigue syndrome" ?.
that's their "get-out-of-jail-free card.
" they were free to cancel anything at anytime and it was their legitimate reason for not doing anything that didn't involve field recruiting.
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Aunt Fancy
I can tell you from my experiences it nearly destroyed my life. I was a very healthy active young 28 year old when I got baptized. A year later I was on anti depression meds and then diagnosed with CFS. It got worse as the years went on and then add other health issues to this. I then was diagnosed with Fibromylgia and it took me down a deeper path. A year before I woke up my husband was scared to death and we sought help with a natural doctor and a therapist along with a great chiropractor that cared about my health. I turned some things around with their help. There are problems that will never go away but I am no longer takeing any of the anti depression drugs I was on for 30 years. My whole like has changed for the better. My heart goes out to others that have suffered in the way.
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JW Literature... Lots of it... what to burn and what to keep?
by ILoveTTATT ini have lots and lots of watchtower literature... and i don't know what could be useful in the future to have as a reference or as a keeper.
i am definitely keeping the 1993 and 1994 bound volumes of the awake!
(no, we are not false prophets... down in the same page, the generation of 1914 will not pass... also the youths who put god the watchtower first).
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Aunt Fancy
We threw most of ours away with the exception of the old books. I sold our set of Studies in the Scriptures for almost $800.00.
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What is the biggest regret or source of resentment because of being a Jehovahs Witness?
by stuckinarut2 ini'm sure we could all write long paragraphs about this question, but in a few words, what is your biggest regret, or frustration in life due to being a witness?.
what missed opportunities did it cost you?
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Aunt Fancy
My biggest regret was giving up my freedom and getting involved with this cult and losing 30 years of my life. I put my son through years of the meeting and than goodness he never got baptized.
I gave up so many wonderful celebrations with my family and I gave up my childhood friends for years.
It caused me to lose my physical & mental health which I am now gaining it back but it took its toll.
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I had a funny feeling he was a Witness... and now I need help.
by noontide inim in a bit of a bind and im not quite sure what (if anything) i can do about it.
i was recently hired as a business consultant for a rather large company.
the company that hired me mentioned that they are concerned about a certain department and the way its being run, as this department affects every other department in the company.
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Aunt Fancy
If he is the HR Director I thought most if not all management is required to work more than 40 hours a week Since they aare salary workers and many have contracts. It sounds like you have plenty to get him on and hopefully the ones who work under him will open up about his performance. I agree with the other and do not bring religion into this at all. You have enough information with out it unless he is preaching to the employees then that is a different matter.
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How to cope with depression?
by make yourself ini know its very common for jws and ex jws to deal with depression.
maybe it's a side effect of cognitive dissonance or the whole outlook on life being a jw.
but what are some ways to cope with depression?
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Aunt Fancy
About a year after I started to study i became very depressed. I went to numerous therapists, drs and tried many forms of medication. I got so bad I didn't want to leave the house at times and then my physical health took a huge toll. This went on for 30 years until I finally found an excellent therapist who helped me along with a natural dr. I went off all of my meds right before we left the religion and it is just amazing how connected this is. I am back to my pre-cult health for the most part.
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My Elderette is returning today to CONDUCT another conversation...
by Faithful Witness inshe has had 42 years of training and indoctrination.
i'm feeling sort of nervous, but also looking forward to it.
this will be our second scheduled session together, and we never did agree on a topic.. i'm assuming she will come with an agenda and another prepared presentation.
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Aunt Fancy
I have missed some posts because I don't understand why you are putting yourself through this. I have to agree with CultBgone in this matter. You are allowing negative people and teachings to get into your mind and it is not healthy. If you are trying to get family out that is another matter but why study with people you barely know or that don't have any respect for you? They don't care about you as a human being but you are a number they can add to their field service report.
I would not even allow them back into my home with the way they treated you the last time by degrading you. I would call them and tell them you are not interested and please do not come back, end of story.
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Feeling disloyal
by stirred but not shaken ini've been visiting here for about a year or so, but didn't really feel compelled to participate other than reading the various posts that interested me.. there's been that uncomfortable feeling of being disloyal to god, the organization, many friends and relatives.. i've been associated since birth.
after 65 + years of service within this organization and actually enjoying that time, it troubled me to find myself wanting to express feelings that were contrary to all that time of "faithfulness".
those years were filled with progressive "privileges and responsibilities" even at a high level, and there was considerable success in our evangelizing activity.
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Aunt Fancy
Welcome Shaken, I was in for 30 years and my husband 58 so we understand what it feels like to believe something for most of your life and then to wake up and find out it is a lie. It does get better and one of the things that helped us was to find interests and that will help you meet new people that will not judge you or put conditions on your friendship. It also helps to read what you can about this religion and also to read biographies of former JW's.
Hang in there because it does get much better with time. I would love to hear more from you.
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My Elderette is returning today to CONDUCT another conversation...
by Faithful Witness inshe has had 42 years of training and indoctrination.
i'm feeling sort of nervous, but also looking forward to it.
this will be our second scheduled session together, and we never did agree on a topic.. i'm assuming she will come with an agenda and another prepared presentation.
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Aunt Fancy
I hope it went well, waiting to hear all about it.